Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Most of us are experiencing a fast-paced lifestyle as our lives are busier.

You probably find yourself feeling stressed, anxious and hearing your inner critic at some point each day.

You can train yourself to overcome these negative thoughts and feelings.

Use the ten tips below to help you increase your sense of inner peace.

Meditation – Self Hypnosis

  • Learn to use Meditation and Self Hypnosis techniques to lessen stress and anxiety.
  • By learning how to use these techniques daily you will soon develop the skill of quietening your mind and find inner peace.

Change Your Mind

  • Having a fluid mindset, instead of fixed one, can help you increase your sense of inner peace.
  • A fluid mindset allows you to cope with change more easily.
  • You can learn to think creatively about solutions
  • Ignore the temptation to focus on the things that are not going as expected.

Simplify 

  • Remove many of the distractions which prevent you from finding inner peace.
  • Do not allow anyone to have a negative effect on you.
  • Delegate unimportant tasks to others
  • Concentrate on the most important tasks only.

Learn to Say “No!” 

  • Learn to say NO to limit the number of items on your to do list
  • Only accept those tasks you want to do and can cope with.
  • Turn down tasks graciously
  • Eliminate any guilt and worry.

Don’t Multitask

  • Focus on one task at a time.
  • Stay in the moment
  • Allow yourself to put your full attention to the task
  • Focus will increase the likelihood of success
  • Enjoy the feelings of increased sense of happiness and accomplishment

Be Mindful

  • Learn mindfulness, it is a powerful tool, helping you to focus on the present.
  • Daily consistent practice of mindfulness will lead to the greatest success
  • It is highly beneficial for reducing stress and anxiety.
  • Slow down and focus on what you are doing.
  • Use all your senses to heighten the experience.

Use Affirmations

  • Use affirmations daily to help you change the way you think and act.
  • Craft positive statements, which express how you want to think, feel or behave.
  • For example,
    • “I am calm and relaxed”
    • “My mind is at peace”
    • “I can create the life I desire”

Practice Acceptance 

  • Cultivate acceptance to achieve inner peace
  • Accept that there are many things in life that are beyond your control.
  • Accept what you cannot change
  • Acceptance reduces stress and anxiety.

Deep Breathe 

  • The most effective way to reduce your anxiety and stress levels is by deep breathing.
  • Take a slow deep breath in through your nostrils.
  • Hold it for a second and then exhale slowly through your mouth
  • As you exhale say to yourself … “I am Relaxed”, I am in Control”
  • Repeat this at least four more times.
  • As you focus on your breathing, clear your mind of all other thoughts.

Live in the Moment

  • Concentrate on the present
  • The past is history and cannot be changed.
  • The future is yet to come.

 

Practice these tips and inner peace can be yours.

Emotional Needs in Business

 
 
Everyone has emotional needs, in business and our private lives, which are essential to leading an emotionally balanced life.
 
This is especially true for entrepreneurs as they work in the public domain as they operate their business for all to see. 
 
The needs which need to be met include:
  • Giving and receiving attention
  • Having a sense of control
  • Having purpose and meaning in our lives
  • Having stimulation and creativity
  • Being aware of the mind-body connection.
When we don’t have our needs met appropriately, we may seek out alternative solutions.
 
For a problem like smoking, for example –
  • Smoking as a way of ‘breaking the ice’ when socializing
  • Smoking as a way of making sure we take a break
  • Smoking to have a sense of control in our lives
  • As everything else seems out of our control we can decide to smoke and when to smoke; or smoking to give us stimulation.
 
A single issue or problem can have many different solutions.
 
By learning which need is being met by the problem, it is possible to address that need directly. As that need gets met, it is much less likely the problem will continue. It will be more likely it will be easier to move on and keep the changes.
 
Setting tasks can also create situations where the needs met appropriately through a safer, more acceptable behavior. Activities like hobbies, sports or learning can help to meet their needs.
 
By analyzing which needs are not being met, or are being met inappropriately, it is possible to dramatically speed up the time it takes to resolve the problem.
 
The impact will be much greater, as they continue to cope with life after therapy.
 

Changing Your Beliefs and Perception

Changing your beliefs and perception

Guided Meditation by Dr. Joe Dispenza – read by Paul Babin!

An extraordinary example of life-changing meditation that every soul should listen to over and over!

Use headphones please and turn down the lights and turn up the volume.

It is a 40-minute journey you will never forget!

I promise … 

 

 

Setting Goals and Perseverance

Setting Goals and Perseverance

There are a few people in this world who can succeed without any goals or plans. They are either lucky or made some kind of otherworldly deal.

For the rest of us, having a plan is probably the only way to succeed in what we want.

It makes no sense to persevere if you choose the wrong plan or no plan at all.

By setting goals, you can strive to complete them, which you will use to persevere. This doesn’t mean that all the goals or tasks will be correct. But, you can find alternatives when needed.

At least when you have a plan, you have a reason to pursue them.

There are many ways to set goals, but one of the more acceptable ways is to start with high-level goals. Then, for each of those high-level goals, define the tasks that it would take to accomplish those goals.

Set milestones so that you can measure how you are doing at each step. It’s okay to make adjustments along the way, even to the high-level goals. But, the key is to use this as a roadmap to keep going. That is the best way to get to where you want to go. Perseverance will play a big role here.

If you give up at any point, don’t beat yourself up too much. Either start over or if possible, pick up where you left off.

When you finally accomplish your goals and milestones, it will be that much more worth the effort.

Sometimes, people don’t get back to their goals. Either they gave up too quickly, or they weren’t meant to make them happen.

If this happens to you, find out what you really want from those goals and if they are right for you.

It is okay if they aren’t, but just make sure that you didn’t give up because it was easier to do that. You don’t want to live with regrets.

If you find that you are constantly giving up on your goals, you may want to get some professional help.

This can either be in the form of coaching or in extreme cases, you may want to seek the advice of a counselor or hypnotherapist.

Sometimes this can make the difference in breaking the barrier of quitting before meeting your goals. A mentor or counselor can give you the necessary guidance and may even be able to help you define better goals.

It could be you just weren’t following the right plan.

 

Is Perseverance Always Good?

Persevere

You may have been told that you need to persevere.

Push forward until you get what you want.

But, what if what you want isn’t right for you or others?

Should you still push for it?

If you are doing something unethical, perseverance will be more of a hindrance than a tool.

It could put you in a bad place or even get you in trouble with the law.

There are times when you continue down a path where it may not be the right path. For instance, if you are against something but are forced to do it or suffer a consequence, this can form a conflict for you.

Perseverance may get you to accomplish the very thing you are against. The fear of the consequence can be the factor that determines why you are pursuing it.

There are times when we should quit, but our inner voice tells us to keep going.

For instance, if your business isn’t working out and is bleeding cash, it could be time to close the doors.

Unless you have a plan to turn things around, doing the same things you have been doing just for the sake of continuing is not the right way to go about it.

It’s a dilemma and you may be thinking success is within reach. But, you need to be able to distinguish between efforts that may succeed vs. a futile attempt to continue down a bad path.

There are no textbooks that can give you this answer. It’s something you need to figure out before it’s too late.

If you are in a situation where you don’t know whether to keep going, seek the advice of others who you trust. Family can be tough because they are often not subjective. They may want you to give up.

Try to find others who are doing the same thing you are trying to accomplish. They may have gone through the same situation and can advise you better in that instance.

In the end, you will know if you should keep going with something. You just need to search deep within yourself and make sure that passion still exists.

You also need to figure out if you have what it takes to keep up your efforts.

If not, it is time to stop.

There are times when this is a good thing.

You and your family will be better off.

Accepting Rejection

The Cornerstone of Perseverance

We learn at an early age that we don’t get everything we want.

In other words, we have had to deal with rejection since then. This makes you think that people accept rejection easily. The exact opposite is usually true.

People start to develop an invisible shield against rejection. They may show anger or resentment to the people who are serving up the rejection. But, in many cases, it can show who is resilient and who is likely to continue until they get what they want.

No one likes to hear negative comments about themselves. People take it personally. However, knowing the reason for rejection can help change your direction. You can correct the aspects that made people reject you in the first place.

This won’t work with everything. For instance, if a person you are attracted to does not return the favor, it may be difficult or impossible to turn this around. Then again, there are numerous stories of people who persevered even when they were rejected time and again, and won the love of their lives.

Another instance where you may face rejection is during a job interview. Many candidates will pass this off as incompetence on the part of the interviewer, and there are certainly cases where this is true. But, you should always try to evaluate the reasons why the interviewer did not choose you. You’d be surprised at how few people even ask for the reasons. Interviewers won’t typically volunteer this information. Many will feel you don’t care if you don’t ask.

In many cases, rejection is not personal. You may not have the necessary skills when seeking a job, or you may not have enough experience, etc. In other cases, it may be somewhat personal, but it may be in your best interest to get rejected. For instance, if you don’t have an aggressive personality, do you want to pursue a career that requires one? If you are in sales, you need to have this driving personality to succeed.

Use rejection to your benefit. People who accept rejection and don’t give up are usually the ones who eventually get that acceptance.

Sometimes, the very fact that you are persevering is what turns the tables from rejection to acceptance.

Whose to say that next opportunity is not the one that will accept you?

You won’t know unless you continue on your quest.