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Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Most of us are experiencing a fast-paced lifestyle as our lives are busier.

You probably find yourself feeling stressed, anxious and hearing your inner critic at some point each day.

You can train yourself to overcome these negative thoughts and feelings.

Use the ten tips below to help you increase your sense of inner peace.

Meditation – Self Hypnosis

  • Learn to use Meditation and Self Hypnosis techniques to lessen stress and anxiety.
  • By learning how to use these techniques daily you will soon develop the skill of quietening your mind and find inner peace.

Change Your Mind

  • Having a fluid mindset, instead of fixed one, can help you increase your sense of inner peace.
  • A fluid mindset allows you to cope with change more easily.
  • You can learn to think creatively about solutions
  • Ignore the temptation to focus on the things that are not going as expected.

Simplify

  • Remove many of the distractions which prevent you from finding inner peace.
  • Do not allow anyone to have a negative effect on you.
  • Delegate unimportant tasks to others
  • Concentrate on the most important tasks only.

Learn to Say “No!”

  • Learn to say NO to limit the number of items on your to do list
  • Only accept those tasks you want to do and can cope with.
  • Turn down tasks graciously
  • Eliminate any guilt and worry.

Don’t Multitask

  • Focus on one task at a time.
  • Stay in the moment
  • Allow yourself to put your full attention to the task
  • Focus will increase the likelihood of success
  • Enjoy the feelings of increased sense of happiness and accomplishment

Be Mindful

  • Learn mindfulness, it is a powerful tool, helping you to focus on the present.
  • Daily consistent practice of mindfulness will lead to the greatest success
  • It is highly beneficial for reducing stress and anxiety.
  • Slow down and focus on what you are doing.
  • Use all your senses to heighten the experience.

Use Affirmations

  • Use affirmations daily to help you change the way you think and act.
  • Craft positive statements, which express how you want to think, feel or behave.
  • For example,
    • “I am calm and relaxed”
    • “My mind is at peace”
    • “I can create the life I desire”

Practice Acceptance

  • Cultivate acceptance to achieve inner peace
  • Accept that there are many things in life that are beyond your control.
  • Accept what you cannot change
  • Acceptance reduces stress and anxiety.

Deep Breathe

  • The most effective way to reduce your anxiety and stress levels is by deep breathing.
  • Take a slow deep breath in through your nostrils.
  • Hold it for a second and then exhale slowly through your mouth
  • As you exhale say to yourself … “I am Relaxed”, I am in Control”
  • Repeat this at least four more times.
  • As you focus on your breathing, clear your mind of all other thoughts.

Live in the Moment

  • Concentrate on the present
  • The past is history and cannot be changed.
  • The future is yet to come.

Practice these tips and inner peace can be yours.

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Emotional Needs in Business

 
 
Everyone has emotional needs, in business and our private lives, which are essential to leading an emotionally balanced life.
 
This is especially true for entrepreneurs as they work in the public domain as they operate their business for all to see. 
 
The needs which need to be met include:
  • Giving and receiving attention
  • Having a sense of control
  • Having purpose and meaning in our lives
  • Having stimulation and creativity
  • Being aware of the mind-body connection.
When we don’t have our needs met appropriately, we may seek out alternative solutions.
 
For a problem like smoking, for example –
  • Smoking as a way of ‘breaking the ice’ when socializing
  • Smoking as a way of making sure we take a break
  • Smoking to have a sense of control in our lives
  • As everything else seems out of our control we can decide to smoke and when to smoke; or smoking to give us stimulation.
 
A single issue or problem can have many different solutions.
 
By learning which need is being met by the problem, it is possible to address that need directly. As that need gets met, it is much less likely the problem will continue. It will be more likely it will be easier to move on and keep the changes.
 
Setting tasks can also create situations where the needs met appropriately through a safer, more acceptable behavior. Activities like hobbies, sports or learning can help to meet their needs.
 
By analyzing which needs are not being met, or are being met inappropriately, it is possible to dramatically speed up the time it takes to resolve the problem.
 
The impact will be much greater, as they continue to cope with life after therapy.
 
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Change Your Beliefs and Perception

Following the program developed by Dr. Joe Dispenza, or reading his books, you will develop the knowledge to Change your beliefs and perception, which no longer serve you.

Dr. Joe Dispenza is making a difference to people’s lives all over the world. His books, DVD’s and Meditations are available on Amazon here …   

All of your thoughts and feelings come from your past memories.

If you think and feel a certain way, you begin to create an attitude. An attitude is a cycle of short-term thoughts and feelings experienced over and over again. Over time, a series of attitudes together create beliefs.

Our beliefs aren’t always as conscious as we think they are. When you add beliefs together, you create a perception. Your perceptions have everything to do with the choices you make, the behaviors you exhibit, the relationships you choose and the reality you create.

Dr. Joe will guide you through the steps to create a coherent brain-wave state and then re-wire the old hardwired programs in your brain and the emotional addictions in your body.

By creating new inner experiences that are greater than the past, you will create new neural-connections in your brain, and new emotional signals in your body.

Biologically, the past will no longer exist, and will you have become free to live that new life that you have desired!

Here are a few of Dr. Joe’s publications for your convenience … 

Generating Abundance
The Place Where Thoughts Become Things: A Guided Children’s Meditation
Morning And Evening Meditations
The Pineal Gland: Tuning In To Higher Dimensions Of Time And Space
Blessing Of The Energy Centers
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Setting Goals and Perseverance

Setting Goals and Perseverance

There are a few people in this world who can succeed without any goals or plans. They are either lucky or made some kind of otherworldly deal.

For the rest of us, having a plan is probably the only way to succeed in what we want.

It makes no sense to persevere if you choose the wrong plan or no plan at all.

By setting goals, you can strive to complete them, which you will use to persevere. This doesn’t mean that all the goals or tasks will be correct. But, you can find alternatives when needed.

At least when you have a plan, you have a reason to pursue them.

There are many ways to set goals, but one of the more acceptable ways is to start with high-level goals. Then, for each of those high-level goals, define the tasks that it would take to accomplish those goals.

Set milestones so that you can measure how you are doing at each step. It’s okay to make adjustments along the way, even to the high-level goals. But, the key is to use this as a roadmap to keep going. That is the best way to get to where you want to go. Perseverance will play a big role here.

If you give up at any point, don’t beat yourself up too much. Either start over or if possible, pick up where you left off.

When you finally accomplish your goals and milestones, it will be that much more worth the effort.

Sometimes, people don’t get back to their goals. Either they gave up too quickly, or they weren’t meant to make them happen.

If this happens to you, find out what you really want from those goals and if they are right for you.

It is okay if they aren’t, but just make sure that you didn’t give up because it was easier to do that. You don’t want to live with regrets.

If you find that you are constantly giving up on your goals, you may want to get some professional help.

This can either be in the form of coaching or in extreme cases, you may want to seek the advice of a counselor or hypnotherapist.

Sometimes this can make the difference in breaking the barrier of quitting before meeting your goals. A mentor or counselor can give you the necessary guidance and may even be able to help you define better goals.

It could be you just weren’t following the right plan.

 

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Is Perseverance Always Good?

Persevere

You may have been told that you need to persevere.

Push forward until you get what you want.

But, what if what you want isn’t right for you or others?

Should you still push for it?

If you are doing something unethical, perseverance will be more of a hindrance than a tool.

It could put you in a bad place or even get you in trouble with the law.

There are times when you continue down a path where it may not be the right path. For instance, if you are against something but are forced to do it or suffer a consequence, this can form a conflict for you.

Perseverance may get you to accomplish the very thing you are against. The fear of the consequence can be the factor that determines why you are pursuing it.

There are times when we should quit, but our inner voice tells us to keep going.

For instance, if your business isn’t working out and is bleeding cash, it could be time to close the doors.

Unless you have a plan to turn things around, doing the same things you have been doing just for the sake of continuing is not the right way to go about it.

It’s a dilemma and you may be thinking success is within reach. But, you need to be able to distinguish between efforts that may succeed vs. a futile attempt to continue down a bad path.

There are no textbooks that can give you this answer. It’s something you need to figure out before it’s too late.

If you are in a situation where you don’t know whether to keep going, seek the advice of others who you trust. Family can be tough because they are often not subjective. They may want you to give up.

Try to find others who are doing the same thing you are trying to accomplish. They may have gone through the same situation and can advise you better in that instance.

In the end, you will know if you should keep going with something. You just need to search deep within yourself and make sure that passion still exists.

You also need to figure out if you have what it takes to keep up your efforts.

If not, it is time to stop.

There are times when this is a good thing.

You and your family will be better off.

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Accepting Rejection

The Cornerstone of Perseverance

We learn at an early age that we don’t get everything we want.

In other words, we have had to deal with rejection since then. This makes you think that people accept rejection easily. The exact opposite is usually true.

People start to develop an invisible shield against rejection. They may show anger or resentment to the people who are serving up the rejection. But, in many cases, it can show who is resilient and who is likely to continue until they get what they want.

No one likes to hear negative comments about themselves. People take it personally. However, knowing the reason for rejection can help change your direction. You can correct the aspects that made people reject you in the first place.

This won’t work with everything. For instance, if a person you are attracted to does not return the favor, it may be difficult or impossible to turn this around. Then again, there are numerous stories of people who persevered even when they were rejected time and again, and won the love of their lives.

Another instance where you may face rejection is during a job interview. Many candidates will pass this off as incompetence on the part of the interviewer, and there are certainly cases where this is true. But, you should always try to evaluate the reasons why the interviewer did not choose you. You’d be surprised at how few people even ask for the reasons. Interviewers won’t typically volunteer this information. Many will feel you don’t care if you don’t ask.

In many cases, rejection is not personal. You may not have the necessary skills when seeking a job, or you may not have enough experience, etc. In other cases, it may be somewhat personal, but it may be in your best interest to get rejected. For instance, if you don’t have an aggressive personality, do you want to pursue a career that requires one? If you are in sales, you need to have this driving personality to succeed.

Use rejection to your benefit. People who accept rejection and don’t give up are usually the ones who eventually get that acceptance.

Sometimes, the very fact that you are persevering is what turns the tables from rejection to acceptance.

Whose to say that next opportunity is not the one that will accept you?

You won’t know unless you continue on your quest.

 

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Learning to Love Yourself

Learning to Love Yourself

Living in a negative world makes it hard to love yourself. You are constantly being bombarded with bad news or information that just doesn’t fit for staying positive. These tips can help you turn it around and start to love yourself.

  1. Consider the 24-hour opportunity costs of hating yourself

Every day, you are given 24 hours and at least five or six of those hours are spent sleeping.

That leaves approximately 18 hours for you to either love yourself or not.

If you spend most of the time disliking yourself and putting yourself down, you essentially have wasted that time.

In contrast, if you used most of that time to love yourself, you have no time for hating yourself.

Learn to Love Yourself

  1. When you love yourself, others will be more willing to love you too

Love is considered a positive emotion. Therefore, when you project love, it comes back to you.

The same is true when you project negativity. It will come right back to you.

Since the choice is yours, why not choose positivity and love?

  1. Stay away from people who are negative

These people drain your positive energy to the point where you become like them over time.

Think back to anyone who you view as negative.

What benefits do they serve to you from their negative behavior?

You won’t come up with any.

  1. Focus most of your energy on the present

It’s the only time frame you have some control over.

The past cannot be changed, and the future hasn’t happened.

People dwell on both of these time frames and lose sight of living for the current time frame.

  1. You are the only person that can love yourself for the majority of the time

Your parents and family love you.

However, they have their own lives to live.

While they may support you, and be there for you, they cannot do this every second of the day.

You have to be the one who does it when they are not around.

If you can do it while they are not there, why not do it when they are there as well?

  1. You may be cutting yourself off from opportunities if you don’t love yourself

It’s about projecting the right kind of message to others.

Your body language and your actions reflect how you feel about yourself.

People pick up on this even at a subconscious level.

If you give off a negative vibe, others may not consider you for a promotion or other opportunities.

  1. To love yourself, start by liking yourself

Give yourself the permission learn to love yourself.

Start by accepting your faults, but committing to change what you can (and what you want).

Make changes only if you feel changes within are needed.

  1. Avoid toxic people

People who are critical of you either don’t understand who you are or are going through issues of their own.

You should ignore these people.

Be aware that this is different than your boss giving you constructive criticism at work.

 

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Boosting Self Image

Boosting Self Image

There’s a lot you can accomplish by having a positive self-image.

Your confidence will increase which means that you can deal with more situations.

People will respond to your increased self-image in a positive way as well.

The first step to increasing your self-image is to know yourself.

You need to understand your capabilities and skills and want to determine your weaknesses to improve upon.

But don’t beat yourself up too much when identifying these, as weaknesses can easily be turned into strengths if you work at them long enough.

Determine what aspects about you are important to change and concentrate on those.

There may be aspects that you are not that concerned with and won’t have much effect on your self-image.

Ignore those, as you can’t and shouldn’t change every aspect of yourself.

Sometimes, you should just accept those aspects of your personality and move on.

You need to be willing to change as if you don’t feel good about yourself, you have to make changes to turn that around.

Change is never easy, but when it comes to increasing your self-image, you will see that it’s worth the effort.

You can seek out an image consultant to help if you are struggling with doing this yourself. An image consultant is trained in helping people increase their self-image.

It can be humbling to hear what the consultant advises but this is part of the process, and you should embrace it. Don’t be afraid to spend some money for a decent consultant. The results they provide will pay for itself.

Keep in mind that no matter what kind of help you get, this is your journey or change.

Don’t worry about what others may believe and stop comparing yourself to other people. They don’t have to live your life.

You are the one that has to live with the consequences of your new image, both good and bad. Although, try to emphasize only the good whenever possible.

 

When your self-image improves, just about every aspect of your life will follow. You will have better relationships at home and at work, and you will have a positive attitude.

Tasks will seem less challenging partly because people will be more willing to pitch in to help you accomplish them.

They will feed off your positive energy and want to be around you more often.

This may open opportunities for you that you never thought you would have at your disposal.

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Emotional Needs and Hypnosis

Emotional Needs and Hypnosis

The most basic requirement for a happy, fulfilled life is to ensure our emotional needs are being met.  

If our emotional needs are not being met appropriately, we will seek alternative ways to have them met. Sometimes those alternative solutions can be detrimental to our physical and emotional well being.  Smoking, Alcohol, Drugs are examples of substitute behaviors which can lead to greater problems, rather than a solution.

Happiness must come from within to be effective, and hypnotherapy helps by replacing negative thoughts and feelings with positive suggestions on how to meet those needs internally. This is an exciting part of personal development because it empowers us to find happiness.

Instead of focussing on what is “wrong”, we can ask, “What emotional needs are not being met?” According to Maslow, if you’re dealing with a condition such as depression, anxiety, or addiction, it’s because one of your fundamental needs is not being met.

The 9 basic needs can be defined as follows:

  1. Security: We need Safety and security allow us to lead our lives without experiencing undue fear and to develop our potential.
  2. Volition: We need to feel powerful and to exist autonomously and be able to direct our own lives.
  3. Attention: We need attention from others and the ability to give attention in return.
  4. Emotional connection: We need to feel connected to other people and to experience friendship, love, and intimacy.
  5. Connection to the wider community: We need to be social and feel connected to something other than ourselves.
  6. Privacy: We need to have time and space to reflect on and learn from our experiences.
  7. A sense of status: We need to have a sense of value, within groups we are part of.
  8. A sense of achievement: We need to feel we are accomplishing things of value.
  9. Meaning: We need to have a sense that we’re part of something greater than ourselves.

A single issue or problem may be the result of multiple needs not being met, which will require more than one solution. 

Our initial goal, therefore, is to learn which need is not being met to the level required and is the primary cause of the issue. Once identified, it can be addressed directly. Identifying the needs which are not being met, or are being met inappropriately, will assist in planning the hypnotherapy to resolve that issue.

While each of us has different levels of needs, we all have the same nine basic needs required for happiness and satisfaction. Each need has a baseline level and which must be met. One person may be very happy spending most of their time, without interaction with other people, while someone else finds it very difficult to be alone and may become depressed, feeling they have no friends and have no value to anyone. 

The key to planning an effective hypnotherapy session is to identify the missing needs AND the degree to which those needs are not being met and then develop a program that will address those needs specifically.

Happiness is within each of us … Awaken Your Potential! 

 

Allan D Curtis
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Hypnosis Weight Loss Program

Hypnosis Weight Loss Program

Hypnosis Weight Loss Program is an effective way to enhance the success rate of your weight loss program. Hypnosis has been used to help with many different issues related to weight loss, including, binge eating, snacking, anxiety disorders, stress, panic attacks, procrastination and lack of self-confidence.

Essentially hypnosis is effective for most issues identified as stress or anxiety related, including alleviating the discomfort of skin disorders, such as eczema and other disorders often resulting from stress or anxiety.

The following excerpt is from an article on Oprah Winfrey’s site …

by Harvard Medical School psychotherapist Jean Fain

  • Many don’t realize that adding trance to your weight loss efforts can help you lose more weight and keep it off longer.
  • Hypnosis predates carb and calorie counting by a few centuries, but this age-old attention-focusing technique has yet to be embraced wholeheartedly as an effective weight loss strategy.
  • Until recently, there has been scant scientific evidence to support the legitimate claims of respected hypnotherapists, and a glut of pie-in-the-sky promises from their problem cousins, stage hypnotists, hasn’t helped.
  • Even after a persuasive mid-nineties reanalysis of 18 hypnotic studies showed that psychotherapy clients who learned self-hypnosis lost twice as much weight as those who didn’t (and, in one study, kept it off two years after treatment ended), hypnotherapy has remained a well-kept weight loss secret.
  • Unless hypnosis has happily compelled you or someone you know to buy a new, smaller wardrobe, it may be hard to believe that this mind-over-body approach could help you get a handle on eating.
  • Read more: http://www.oprah.com/health/hypnosis-for-weight-loss-can-hypnosis-help-you-lose-weight/all#ixzz55vmFQ1UY

Combining hypnosis with a common-sense diet and quality exercise program greatly increases the likelihood of achieving and maintaining the weight loss desired.

Hypnosis helps a person become more focused, while in a calm, relaxed state.

Guided visualization with verbal patterns, soft music, and repetition are often used by hypnotherapist’s to induce a hypnotic state. The mind calms down and goes into a peaceful, calm and relaxed state. Worries disappear and the conscious mind idles, as the subconscious mind comes active.

The subject becomes open to positive suggestions to follow to achieve their desired outcome. Using hypnosis to supplement other weight loss techniques, allow the person to be more at ease and more likely to stay on their dietary and exercise plan.

A suggestion, for example, might recommend “eat food more slowly and enjoy every bite thoroughly”. This slows down the eating process and improves digestion, increases the pleasure of eating and reduces food intake, as the feeling of being hungry will be satisfied sooner.

Hypnosis is not a “magic pill”, which will suddenly make you lose weight, no matter what you eat and what you drink.  It is essential that the therapy is combined with a change in your eating habits and choice of food. Exercise is also essential to burn off the calories you do consume.

As mentioned earlier, hypnosis is an effective weight loss technique, provided it is used as part of an overall diet plan which involves smart eating and moderate exercise.  Hypnosis alone will not help you achieve the weight loss you desire.

Hypnosis will make you calmer and more willing to do the things necessary to achieve the weight loss you want, but only if you are willing to put in the effort to make the necessary changes and keep up the good habits of sound eating and quality exercise.

You cannot expect to lose weight by eating tons of sweets and fast food every day, even if you are seeing a hypnotherapist.

Common sense, eating the right foods consistently, getting in quality exercise regularly, and using hypnosis to help relieve the stress you may be feeling and to reinforce the positive emotions and desires of wanting to lose weight in order for weight-loss hypnosis to work for you.

Hypnosis alone will not enable you to lose the weight you desire, but as part of a proper lifestyle program of healthy eating and quality exercising, hypnosis can help to increase your success at losing weight and keeping it off long term.