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Setting Goals and Perseverance

Setting Goals and Perseverance

There are a few people in this world who can succeed without any goals or plans. They are either lucky or made some kind of otherworldly deal.

For the rest of us, having a plan is probably the only way to succeed in what we want.

It makes no sense to persevere if you choose the wrong plan or no plan at all.

By setting goals, you can strive to complete them, which you will use to persevere. This doesn’t mean that all the goals or tasks will be correct. But, you can find alternatives when needed.

At least when you have a plan, you have a reason to pursue them.

There are many ways to set goals, but one of the more acceptable ways is to start with high-level goals. Then, for each of those high-level goals, define the tasks that it would take to accomplish those goals.

Set milestones so that you can measure how you are doing at each step. It’s okay to make adjustments along the way, even to the high-level goals. But, the key is to use this as a roadmap to keep going. That is the best way to get to where you want to go. Perseverance will play a big role here.

If you give up at any point, don’t beat yourself up too much. Either start over or if possible, pick up where you left off.

When you finally accomplish your goals and milestones, it will be that much more worth the effort.

Sometimes, people don’t get back to their goals. Either they gave up too quickly, or they weren’t meant to make them happen.

If this happens to you, find out what you really want from those goals and if they are right for you.

It is okay if they aren’t, but just make sure that you didn’t give up because it was easier to do that. You don’t want to live with regrets.

If you find that you are constantly giving up on your goals, you may want to get some professional help.

This can either be in the form of coaching or in extreme cases, you may want to seek the advice of a counselor or hypnotherapist.

Sometimes this can make the difference in breaking the barrier of quitting before meeting your goals. A mentor or counselor can give you the necessary guidance and may even be able to help you define better goals.

It could be you just weren’t following the right plan.


Is Perseverance Always Good?


You may have been told that you need to persevere.

Push forward until you get what you want.

But, what if what you want isn’t right for you or others?

Should you still push for it?

If you are doing something unethical, perseverance will be more of a hindrance than a tool.

It could put you in a bad place or even get you in trouble with the law.

There are times when you continue down a path where it may not be the right path. For instance, if you are against something but are forced to do it or suffer a consequence, this can form a conflict for you.

Perseverance may get you to accomplish the very thing you are against. The fear of the consequence can be the factor that determines why you are pursuing it.

There are times when we should quit, but our inner voice tells us to keep going.

For instance, if your business isn’t working out and is bleeding cash, it could be time to close the doors.

Unless you have a plan to turn things around, doing the same things you have been doing just for the sake of continuing is not the right way to go about it.

It’s a dilemma and you may be thinking success is within reach. But, you need to be able to distinguish between efforts that may succeed vs. a futile attempt to continue down a bad path.

There are no textbooks that can give you this answer. It’s something you need to figure out before it’s too late.

If you are in a situation where you don’t know whether to keep going, seek the advice of others who you trust. Family can be tough because they are often not subjective. They may want you to give up.

Try to find others who are doing the same thing you are trying to accomplish. They may have gone through the same situation and can advise you better in that instance.

In the end, you will know if you should keep going with something. You just need to search deep within yourself and make sure that passion still exists.

You also need to figure out if you have what it takes to keep up your efforts.

If not, it is time to stop.

There are times when this is a good thing.

You and your family will be better off.

Accepting Rejection

The Cornerstone of Perseverance

We learn at an early age that we don’t get everything we want.

In other words, we have had to deal with rejection since then. This makes you think that people accept rejection easily. The exact opposite is usually true.

People start to develop an invisible shield against rejection. They may show anger or resentment to the people who are serving up the rejection. But, in many cases, it can show who is resilient and who is likely to continue until they get what they want.

No one likes to hear negative comments about themselves. People take it personally. However, knowing the reason for rejection can help change your direction. You can correct the aspects that made people reject you in the first place.

This won’t work with everything. For instance, if a person you are attracted to does not return the favor, it may be difficult or impossible to turn this around. Then again, there are numerous stories of people who persevered even when they were rejected time and again, and won the love of their lives.

Another instance where you may face rejection is during a job interview. Many candidates will pass this off as incompetence on the part of the interviewer, and there are certainly cases where this is true. But, you should always try to evaluate the reasons why the interviewer did not choose you. You’d be surprised at how few people even ask for the reasons. Interviewers won’t typically volunteer this information. Many will feel you don’t care if you don’t ask.

In many cases, rejection is not personal. You may not have the necessary skills when seeking a job, or you may not have enough experience, etc. In other cases, it may be somewhat personal, but it may be in your best interest to get rejected. For instance, if you don’t have an aggressive personality, do you want to pursue a career that requires one? If you are in sales, you need to have this driving personality to succeed.

Use rejection to your benefit. People who accept rejection and don’t give up are usually the ones who eventually get that acceptance.

Sometimes, the very fact that you are persevering is what turns the tables from rejection to acceptance.

Whose to say that next opportunity is not the one that will accept you?

You won’t know unless you continue on your quest.